Today’s post is an informative one from a guest blogger, Jessica S. We are excited to share her post with you since choosing your bridal party can be a daunting task. You want folks around you that will help and support you if you need it on your wedding day. Below she gives detailed recommendations to help you pick the perfect wedding party! Enjoy.
After choosing a date and scouting out a venue, one of the first things an engaged couple decides on is who they should ask to stand beside them on their wedding day. Picking groomsmen and bridesmaids can be a stressful process as you winnow down candidates without hurting feelings or excluding people who feel close to you. For couples who are slightly flustered by this decision, here are some tips for selecting the right people for your wedding party.
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How Many Attendants Do You Need?
Between cousins and siblings, high school BFFs and college roommates, deciding how many people to include in your wedding party can be a difficult decision. RealSimple.com recommends that the “traditional formula is one bridesmaid for every 35 to 50 guests.” This works out well for groomsmen who will be acting as ushers at a ratio of about one man per 50 guests.
Another way to gauge the size of your wedding party is to think about your venue as well as your guest list. If you are having a large formal wedding, then a big wedding party is more expected as a part of the event. But small backyard vows might seem overcrowded with eight attendants on each side. So usually, small weddings will have fewer attendants.
However, these are just guidelines rather than rules. And the real choice is up to the bride and groom. Some couples relate better to smaller intimate groups while others will want a lot of their fun friends to celebrate with them, and this may be reflected by the size of the wedding party. And other brides and grooms with large families will probably have more attendants as a result.
Keeping Things Proportional
A common question many couples ask is whether or not they need an equal number of bridesmaids and groomsmen. Fortunately, you don’t have to come up with an identical grouping of gals and guys of equivalent heights. Most authorities on wedding protocol agree that exact symmetry, while aesthetic, is not necessary.
However, it is advisable to keep the ratio fairly close. This way things look even on both sides of the altar and there are enough gents to escort the ladies down the aisle. “The key,” writes TLC, “is to keep things proportional.”
For mixed numbers, there are a couple options for organizing the wedding procession. If the numbers are off by just one or two, then a couple groomsmen will be lucky enough to escort a lady on each arm as they walk down the aisle. If there is a greater gap, then groomsmen can simply follow the groom and best man in and let the bridesmaids walk down single file.
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How Important Is Blood?
For brides and grooms who feel close to their siblings, there is really no question about not including them in the party. But others may have strained or distant relationships. While it is ultimately your decision, it is almost always advisable to err on the safe side and include your brothers or sisters on your big day. And it is customary that blood ties win out over best friends when choosing the best man and maid/matron of honor. Although some brides will get to include both if her best friend is unmarried and can act as a maid while a married sister serves as the matron at the same time.
When it is all said and done, you will hopefully have assembled a group of tight knit family and friends to support you throughout the engagement and be there to celebrate on the big day. At the rehearsal dinner or a special brunch in their honor, you and your fiancé can present the wedding party members with special gifts as a token of thanks.
While these do not need to be budget breaking presents, they should reflect the fact that your attendants have shelled out a bit of cash to purchase wedding clothes, shoes and attend all the parties leading up to the actual wedding. Grooms can pick out unique groomsmen gifts to reflect the personalities of their favorite guys. And brides can select personalized tokens like initialed jewelry to say “Thanks for helping me say ‘I do.’”
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Jessica Socheski is a freelance writer who loves discovering new ideas for wedding details. You can connect with her on Google+.