For the past few years, the trend has been to ask guests to leave their kids at home. Despite how popular no-kid weddings are becoming, many couples are still finding it difficult to navigate the no kid waters. To help out we put together some pros and cons and tips and tricks for having kids (or not) at your wedding. Regardless of what you choose, always trust your gut, and you will be happy with the choice!
Before you kick the kids off your guest list for good, there are a few things to consider. The best reason to include kids at your wedding is to keep the peace in your family, and your fiance’s family. I find that families are the biggest challenge to having a kid free wedding. To help ease their feelings, consider having kids at the ceremony so they can be there for pictures and the meaningful part of the day. After pictures are done, you can send them away to the babysitters.
Another reason to keep the munchkins around is to help kick off the dance floor. Some of the best things about children is their energy and their lack of self consciousness. It makes them the perfect little people to get the dance party started. And who doesn’t love watching little ones dance.
Lastly, lets face it, they are pretty darn cute. Its hard to argue with that one.
If you do decide to have kids remember to:
- Have highchairs or booster seats available
- Have some kid friendly plastic cups available at the non-alcohol station
- Talk to your caterer about a separate (more affordable) kid friendly dinner option
- Pre-plan a safe, clean, comfortable area for nursing moms ahead of time
- Have a few coloring/activity books available for the kids
- Double check the lyrics on the songs the DJ plays to be sure they are kid appropriate
- Triple check set up to make sure the rambunctious kiddos cannot destroy too much
Switching gears, if you win the battle with your families to have a kid free wedding. Here are some tips on executing:
- Be sure to keep the policy consistent. No kids has to mean no kids for everyone. Folks will get their feelings hurt if they see anyone’s kids there but not their own.
- If you have a lot of friends traveling who won’t be able to leave their children behind, offer to provide them with a babysitter. We love Big Top Event Childcare.
- Communicating that your wedding is a no kid affair can be tricky. You can go, subtle, direct, or you can blame the decision on someone else. Here are a few examples you can steal:
- In order to allow all guests, including parents, an evening of relaxation…we have chosen for our wedding day to be an adult only occasion. We hope this advance notice means you are still able to share our big day and will enjoy having the evening off!
- Children at the ceremony, we’d love them on the scene. Reception time, however, is an adult’s only theme.
- While we love to watch the children run and play, this is an adults only kind of day.
- Adult wedding and reception
- Adult only affair
- This invitation is extended to adults only
- Blame someone else:
- Due to restrictions at our venue, children are not invited.
- Management request no children under 16 (or whatever age this may be).
- By request of management no children.
- Regrettably children are unable to attend.
We hope this has helped you navigate this sticky part of wedding planning. Like we mentioned earlier, follow you gut and choose which path will help you create the wedding you want. Everyone will come around and support whatever decision you make.